BDSM

It all depends on the intensity you are looking for: a crop for precise impact, a paddle for firm spanking, a flogger for a diffuse effect, and a whip for experts. If you are a beginner, start with a crop or a paddle.

Shibari is a form of Japanese art that emphasizes aesthetics, symmetry and emotional connection. Classic bondage is often more functional, focused on physical restraint.

It is possible to get started on a modest budget. Simple accessories such as a blindfold or handcuffs generally cost between €15 and €40. You can then build up your collection as you explore, based on your desires and progression.

Practiced in accordance with safety rules (consent, communication, safeword), BDSM is not dangerous. It is built on mutual trust and attentiveness. Like any intimate practice, it requires care and consideration. Start gradually, favour accessories suited to beginners, and always listen to your partner.

Communication is essential. Choose a calm moment, outside of intimacy, to raise the subject. Talk about your desires, your curiosities, but also your limits. Suggest discovering it together, without pressure or expectations. You can also explore this collection together to identify what attracts, intrigues or inspires you both.

To ease in gently and enrich your intimacy, opt for simple, reassuring accessories that allow you to explore without overturning your comfort zone. Padded leather handcuffs or satin ones are ideal for playing with control in a safe setting. A blindfold intensifies sensations by masking sight, while a light flogger or a sensory feather offer surprising and varied caresses.

If you wish to go further into the symbolism, a jewellery-style submission collar can deepen intimacy and create a unique connection. For those wanting to explore impact sensations, a paddle or a light crop allow for gradual testing. Finally, scene accessories such as a body harness or a fetish outfit bring an aesthetic and theatrical dimension that fuels the couple's imagination.

A few recommended accessories for beginners:

• Padded handcuffs : for exploring control gently
• Satin blindfold : for intensifying sensations
• Light flogger : for gradually discovering impact play
• Jewellery submission collar : for deepening symbolism and connection

To use a BDSM sex toy safely, three points are essential: consent, boundaries and gradual progression. In BDSM, control is not limited to the act itself — it also involves the choice of toy, the material and the pace of use.

Key best practices:

• clearly discuss boundaries with your partner,
• choose a sex toy suited to its purpose (stimulation, penetration, restraint),
• use a compatible lubricant,
• start gently and adjust according to reactions,
• avoid using too many accessories at once during the first session,
• favour safe materials (e.g. silicone or steel) and a design intended for the targeted area.

These practices make the experience smoother, more comfortable, and strengthen intimacy in the sexual relationship, whether you are exploring domination, submission or sensory control.

When starting out, the most important thing is to choose a simple, comfortable BDSM sex toy suited to your experience level. The goal is to discover sensations and stimulation, then progress step by step in your practices.

For a first purchase, 1969 recommends:

• adjustable clamps for progressive stimulation,
• a plug or probe with reasonable dimensions (size/weight), in stainless steel,
• a cockring for support and better control,
• a stainless steel dildo for temperature play and the sensation of weight, such as those from the Njoy brand.

1969 offers more than 600 references, including handcuffs, clamps and lubricants. It works directly with renowned manufacturers to guarantee the quality of BDSM items. 1969 is considered a meeting point for connoisseurs and curious newcomers to the BDSM scene, and offers BDSM sex toys made from high-quality materials such as leather, metal and silicone.